Our social crisis

A couple weeks ago, I came across a truly remarkable talk by writer and author David Brooks titled “The lies our culture tells us about what matters - and a better way to live.” In his talk he talks about the things we attribute to making us happy and fulfilled. This is one of the most important talks I’ve watched all year and the one that has made me think the hardest about how I truly “show up” (or don’t) in the relationships I have with friends, family and community.

In the talk, he discusses what career success, self-sufficiency and meritocracy have falsely led many to believe about fulfillment and joy. And if you aren’t careful with how you focus your attention, you end up fragmented from everything that could bring true joy into your life. He refers to us being in a social and relational crisis because we’ve focused for too long on the wrong things.

Which leads me to think about how can I try to make sure that I, as best as anyone can I suppose, am really “showing up” when it matters, building relationships that are fulfilling and doing what I can to build deeper connections with others. What am I actively doing to make sure I don’t fall into what David refers to as “The Valley” and what am I doing to help others realize the opportunities that come from meaningful connections.

So while I know I don't have the answer, I am excited to reflect on this topic and think about how in all aspects of my life, might I continue to work on where I focus my attention in 2021. I would love to hear any thoughts people have on this topic, and if anyone is interested in discussing, please reach out, I can imagine there are wonderful conversations to be had around this topic of connectivity.